The Night of the Gun, by David Carr - Eh. It was enlightening (I learned how crack cocaine is made), but I wouldn’t read it again. David Carr seems to be a good writer, if a little pretentious, but despite the premise – he conducted research and did interviews with people who knew him while he was a junkie – it didn’t stand out from any other addiction memoir I’ve read.

Aveeno Active Naturals Body Wash – I got the pomegranate and rice exfoliating stuff, and it is AWESOME. Normally I don’t like fruity smells (unless accompanied by actual fruit) but this one wasn’t overwhelming, and the scrub itself wasn’t too rough for my skin. I was noticeably softer even before adding lotion. Recommend!

The Last Song – Miley Cyrus starred in this movie, which I guess was supposed to be a cross between a romantic comedy and a drama, heavy on the drama. While I like her voice, her acting was pretty pitiful. Or maybe I just find her annoying in general, I’m not really sure. Anyway, it helps when a film (especially the romantic variety) has a man so hot you want to rip your clothes off and climb through the screen compelling male lead, and I’m sorry to say Liam Hemsworth is sadly lacking both charm and good looks – at least in my humble opinion. Lead characters aside, the movie was predictable, which can sometimes be appreciated but not in this particular case.

Soooo. Clearly my week has been HIGHLY productive. It’s not as though I had a lot of time to browse the beauty section at Walmart or lay around watching bad imitations of movies. How has your week been?

Which is why I feel completely comfortable calling her out when she makes stupid decisions. We haven’t had a serious difference in opinion since she decided NOT to get her son vaccinated (GAH! This still infuriates me!), but I feel I must protest when she starts making noise about how relieved she is that the school she’s sending him to has a vegetarian option on the menu.

WHAT? Excuse me? I have zero problems with people who make the decision (as adults) to forgo meat, or those who choose to be vegans. Yay personal choice! Yay freedom! And I do realize that it’s natural for parents to pass their beliefs and preferences on to their kids. Duh. But while I wouldn’t interfere with someone’s choice to become a vegetarian, I don’t think their children should be subjected to that same lifestyle – at least, not until they become old enough to decide for themselves, and by that I mean 18 + years.

There are alternatives, of course. I realize a lot people find tofu a good nutritional choice. Nevermind that tofu is basically coagulated soy milk, it gets the job done. But in places like Montana, especially rural Montana, those options are far more difficult to come by. What then? I just don’t think following a strict vegetarian diet is the healthiest choice for a small, growing body.

YES, I went there. Not that her parenting decisions are any of my business. I don’t even have kids of my own, and perhaps that means I should just shut my hole. But rest assured: if I ever DO have mini-mes, they’ll know what steak tastes like (and reap the nutritional benefits).

Note: While I believe including beef, chicken, and fish in a diet is better than going without, I recognize that a lot of people eat too much meat – which isn’t good either.

Just in case I haven’t yet pissed off everyone in the world, I’ll add that I wrote this while enjoying hotdogs for dinner. That would be pig AND cow parts. Yummy.

I’m stressed. Stressed over the changes I’m trying to make in my life (college – yay! and EEEK!), mostly. SPSCC is taking their sweet time with my transcripts (10 business days is unreasonable when you have the attention span of a fruit fly), and I have a desperate need to know if I’m as smart as I hope I am. Or was. Or something.

Instead of dealing with my anxiety by opening my jaw and hoovering all available food in the vacinity, which by now you should all recognize as my usual coping strategy, I’ve been buying books. Seems healthy on the surface, doesn’t it? Harmless, even!

The question is, how many is too many? I want to say there’s no such thing as too many books, but I’m positive my budget would say otherwise. If I consulted my budget in this matter, which…HAH!

Let’s see. In the past month – maybe even three weeks – I’ve purchased a total of…nevermind. The actual number isn’t important. A lot, it’s safe to assume. I’ll read them all, and probably love them all. And the one from the Barnes & Noble bargain bin doesn’t count. So there.

I skipped a week or so a couple of days at the gym, which might’ve contributed to my shopping spree. I went back today, thank god, and realized that part of my exhaustion/moodiness was the result of no exercise. I’ve become dependent on it.

Despite all of my nerves and agitation, I feel pretty good. Purpose is a lovely, necessary thing to have.

I’m slowly building my own library. Right now it fits on the extra shelves in my living room, but someday I’d like an entire room set aside for books. My grandmother had a makeshift library in her basement, and it was my favorite room in her house (despite the cold). I’d like mine to have comfortable chairs, a fireplace, and a lot of light.

Meanwhile, e-book sales are skyrocketing. Why buy a paperback when you can download whatever you want to your Kindle? Although it’s just as expensive to download a book as it is to buy one, without the added pleasure of being able to bury your nose in the pages. I mean, I guess a person could sniff their Kindle screen, but computers don’t really have a scent.

I’m not just a lover of stories, I’m a lover of BOOKS. Actual paper and binding books. And it will break my heart when everyone has a Kindle. Barnes & Noble is already reporting a decline in sales. I worry that eventually real books will become obsolete (while environmentalists do cartwheels). And THEN what will I do?

I can tell you this much: I will not be buying a Kindle. Ever. Maybe that makes me old-fashioned or snobby or possibly even ignorant, and I don’t care.

Sixty years from now when the world looks like something from a Jetsons cartoon, I’ll be pulling a battered copy of Wuthering Heights from a shelf. And my blinds will be closed.

I went to college for about a year after high school and loved it. I’m enough of a nerd that studying and papers and exams made my heart happy. I quit because my financial aid dried up and I couldn’t afford to go on my own.

I’ve filled out a request for my transcripts. I’m working on the FAFSA. For the first time in a long time I have that hum under my skin, that tingling that tells me I might be doing something right for a change.

Getting a degree, despite my aspirations to be a writer, seems smart. And solid.

Of course, going back to college is a terrifying notion. I’ve been out of school for TEN YEARS. What if I’m stupid now? A brain needs as much exercise as anything else, and mine is on the chubby, couch-potato side of things. Not only that, most of the people attending will be younger than I am. A lot longer. I’m almost thirty. And I’d be starting as a freshman again – I didn’t rack up enough credits to be a sophomore, and god knows how many of my credits will even transfer.

I want this, badly. I want to do this for myself. I’m not in love with my life the way  it is now (in fact, if I could break up with my life I would). A new path is the obvious choice.

However, looking at what I just wrote is making me want to drown myself in a very shallow, very murky puddle (or possibly my coffee, as it’s directly in front of me and therefore convenient for that purpose) so I’m thinking optimism is going to have to wait for another day.

I do not enjoy change. Earlier today I tried enjoying it more by adding pizza, but it didn’t help things go down easier.

My life has been idling at neutral for about five years. YEARS. What the hell am I doing here? I do not want to be one of those old people who end up bitter and alone thinking of all the opportunities they missed. I want to look back at my life and feel contentment, to be able to laugh.

For that to happen, change must occur. YUCK. I get cranky just thinking about it – which is a direct side effect of my most prominent personality trait, fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of getting mugged and having to stand in line at the DMV for hours to get a new license. Basically I’m a gigantic chicken. If life were a hen house I would rule the roost, okay?

I don’t like knowing that about myself. Fear shouldn’t play a role in my decision making, and the fact that it sometimes does makes me angry with myself. Angry and ashamed.

I’ve come to some heavy, not altogether comfortable decisions in the past week.
1) Change is essential. If I stay the course my life won’t be anywhere near what I want it to be.
2) I need to grow a pair. Or at least borrow a pair.

Oh, look – it’s raining. There are puddles outside calling my name. It’s nice to know God does listen, and can be helpful.

This pity party was brought to you by Amber. She appreciates your time and wants you to know she was totally kidding about all the puddles. Thanks, and have a great night!

Me: Turns on AC.
Boss: “Turn that thing off.”
Me: “It’s hot in here! Aren’t you hot?”
Boss: “I’m allergic to air conditioning.”
Me: …………
Boss: “I am.”
Me: “Uh-huh. Okay. You know it just circulates cold air, right?”
Boss: Gives me dirty look.
Me: “So you’re allergic to air? Because…that would be bad. Seeing as air? Is pretty much everywhere in the world, all the time.”
Boss: Leaves office.

Don’t worry, I won’t be getting fired. My boss loves me, despite my smart-assed nature. And my tendency to point out the obvious. Maybe I should have made him feel a bit better by suggesting dust or pollen as a reasonable alternative? Nah.

I went to the library today in search of more reading material (because really, there can never be enough) and found a book called I’m No Monster: The Horrifying True Story of Josef Fritzl, by Stefanie Marsh & Bojan Pancevski. Actually I found several, but when I slid that one across the counter the librarian looked up with alarm on her face and said, “I should warn you – only four people have checked out this book, and three brought it back without finishing it. Apparently the things he did are just awful, and very detailed.”

If you know me, you know I was indulging in a mental eye-roll. First: I have never NOT finished a book. Ever. I’m incapable. Second, she just gave a mild case of curiosity a big boost. I HAVE to know what’s in that book, and right away.

Other books I checked out:
Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance, by Robert M. Pirsig
Shattered Silence – The Untold Story of a Serial Killer’s Daughter, by Melissa G. Moore & M. Bridget Cook
Tears in the Darkness: The Story of the Bataan Death March and it’s Aftermath, by Michael Norman & Elizabeth M. Norman

I might’ve been in a slightly morbid frame of mind while I was looking. What memorable books have you read lately?

Meanwhile, in the past week I discovered I was selling myself short, fitness-wise. I’ve been setting limits for myself – 45 lbs, 10 minutes, etc. And I’ve been meeting them, but not bothering to even try and surpass them.

Until I found myself reaching my self-imposed limit on the treadmill, and thinking, I’m not tired – maybe I should keep going? And so I did. And it sounds ridiculous and obvious, and HELLO AMBER HERE’S YOUR DARWIN AWARD, but REALLY. I went for longer than I thought I could. And sure, I was dripping puddles of sweat and gasping for air, but I did it.

After that earth-shattering revelation (oh, bite me), I decided it’s high time to kick my own ass. So I have been. I’ve been running harder and longer, and lifting heavier weights. There were a couple days I beat my alarm until I was positive it was broken and thought about not going at all, but I made myself go. And now I’m going every day.

More than once I’ve been on the treadmill (I have a deeply ingrained hatred of running, so much that I sometimes have to pretend I’m being chased by scary monsters to keep going) and my strength – okay, mostly my strength of WILL – has started flagging, and I find myself considering giving up. But I found something better than monsters to motivate my increasingly less-jiggly ass.

Now I just think of Demi Moore – GI Jane, anyone? I remember that movie, especially the part where she was fighting for scraps out of a barrel in the rain – and STILL managed to hang upside down and execute perfect situps. If GI Jane can be half-starved and still kick ass, I can probably run more and lift more on my diet, which is less of a diet and more of an all-you-can-eat buffet.

When I’m running and watching the clock, I want to die after about four minutes. I think of quitting. I think of GI Jane and keep going. After about seven minutes I’m resigned to my fate, unhappily. After about ten minutes I realize my body isn’t going to collapse, and I want to finish – I’m going to finish. It’s satisfying to know it. This is corny, but when I hit the fifteen minute mark I feel a thrill, a heady sense of triumph. I’ve finished. I ran flat out, for 15 whole minutes, on an incline – AFTER torturing myself on the elliptical for 20 minutes.

I know some people might roll their eyes at 15 minutes, might scoff and call my sense of accomplishment undeserved. But I’ve never done it before. Ever. Until now.

BLONDE. On me! It’s so bizarre. I think I like it though! Well, aside from the prospect of constant maintenance…what do you guys think? (The hairstyle is not mine, sadly, but courtesy of Blake Lively on instyle.com – I just tweaked the colors).

And special thanks to Busty Satan for giving me the link!

- Rowdy went home, and I’m a little bit sad about it – but happy to have my sister back (I didn’t realize how much I missed her until I saw her). Happier still about the pretty, bright blue t-shirt and baseball cap I got. I LOVE cheesy, touristy gifts. HEART.

- I’ve started going to the gym every day (instead of every other) to combat my emotionally-charged eating habits. I’m still trying to eat healthier, with sporadic success. It might be my imagination, but I think my belly is shrinking a tiny bit. So the extra gym time must be helping, at least a little.

- I’ve been considering going blonde for a while now. Not just highlights, but my whole head. BLONDE. I haven’t been totally blond since I was about three, but I want to go back. I’m bored with my look – my hair, my makeup. Everything is making me fall asleep. Something has to change. I don’t think a new shade of lipstick is gonna cut it, and I’m too much of a chickenshit to get a tattoo, so…hair it is. Of course, a decision like this can’t be taken lightly, so I’m asking you guys what you think:

Should I go blonde? And don’t think I haven’t considered the jokes about my hair finally matching my personality.